You’re doing fine.

Don’t forget: you’re doing fine

It’s so easy to over-analyse every little thing you do, and focus on every tiny mistake you feel you make. At the end of a particularly hard day, you collapse on the couch – gin optional (only kidding, it’s not optional) – and go through every interaction, every word and tone you used, to find where you could have prevented the bad moments from happening. 

Stop it. You’re doing fine. The fact that you’ve trawled through the internet looking for help and discovered this paltry blog for your toolbox shows this. Look for the good things, the big moments that you’re getting right. Did your child, for instance, cope with the clock change? 

Honestly, we danced a jig this week, because, this time, our fae did! We took her out, let her run herself ragged looking for a Gruffalo at a park (everyone knows there’s no such thing) and then let her sleep on the way back. We then gave her a meal heavy on her favourite carbs, and she went to sleep only a little late, slept through, and was back onto “clock” time. It was a relief (despite our internal fuming about how stupid the whole clock change thing it). 

So: go team! My husband and myself needed to take a moment to celebrate that. Don’t get bogged down on the day to day drudgery. You are doing fine, you are making progress and your fae is doing fine. So, look back over the past weeks & months and celebrate the wins! They are there, look for them.