Ignorance is bliss

Ignorance is bliss. It’s also a good tactic when dealing with truculent, self-opinionated and tantruming children. Following on from my last post on self-awareness, our fae has upped the ante on her behaviour and has decided that she is a ‘hunter’ and that hunters ‘do what they want’

This is an interesting concept from someone who needs help with everything from getting to school to wiping their ass, but we will gloss over that. She is adamant that she will loudly proclaim that she doesn’t need to listen to either of her parents and that we are in fact losers. 

You know the adage ‘never argue with an idiot because they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience?’ That can also be applied to small children. There is no winning, applying logic will not help you beauce they are not logical beings. Appealing to their better nature won’t work simply because they don’t have one, they are in fact little arseholes designed to test how far you can be pushed before you commit murder. 

So that left us with one last option: we ignore her tantrums. We sat down at the table having informed her that her food was ready and desperately wracked our brains for anything and everything we could talk about that didn’t revolve around her. This was not an easy task, my husband works from home and we had discussed his recent achievements at lunch. Nor did we have anything to talk about from my end, because I spend my days looking after the child and preventing her from killing herself, and yes this is a full-time occupation. 

After a minute she joined us, after two she started eating, after three she tried to join in the conversation and actually told us about her day (miracle of miracles). A much calmer evening than we have had in a long time. So ignorance may be bliss but ignoring is pretty tranquil as well.