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Flight of the butterfly part 2

So, I meant to write this update some time ago, but life happened and got in the way. Somehow, my daughter has got it in her head that being a human is a dull existence (she’s not entirely wrong) and is trying out being different species. She tried being a lizard but was unimpressed thatContinue reading “Flight of the butterfly part 2”

Wilful Ignorance

I recently found something that really got my goat. In fact after several days I am still wound up enough that my blood pressure is still in the red, and it is something I feel I will share so it can wind you up as well. Or not – maybe I’m on my own withContinue reading “Wilful Ignorance”

Being Good

We have rules in our house. I’m sure everyone does. Importantly, they apply to us as well as our daughter. The most sacred of them is ‘if you say it, do it’. This goes for consequences, as well as rewards. We never promise anything that we are not sure we can deliver on. This meansContinue reading “Being Good”

Spotting the fae’s

This weekend, my daughter was invited to a birthday party. She was one of 4 known fae children, in a room containing 30+ youngsters: running around; bouncing on one of 4 bouncy castles; eating candy floss; and generally going manic. It was an interesting study: once you know what to look for, it is veryContinue reading “Spotting the fae’s”

Decisions and delegating

In our house, if there is a difficult decision to be made, such as where to hang a picture or what colour to order an item in, that decision is made by our fae. Seriously: I am hopeless and can vacillate for hours (or, in some cases, years) of making a choice (I still haven’tContinue reading “Decisions and delegating”

The Blue House

Since the death of my father, my fae has been searching, in vain, for a blue house. It has taken some extensive and gentle probing to ascertain the particulars of this house. It turns out this house is very big, and situated ‘over there’ (this statement is made with a vague hand gesture in aContinue reading “The Blue House”

We have normality

After 6 long weeks normality (such as it is) has been restored, so “Anything you still can’t cope with is therefore your own problem.” Sadly, this is a long list of problems. Some of it is fall-out from the 6 weeks, and some is ongoing issues. As I have mentioned in past posts: some traitsContinue reading “We have normality”

The difference between fine and masking

“But she seems completely fine. “ This sentence, regularly uttered by friends and even family who have neuro-typical children, makes me want to tear my hair out. To put this in context, our nearest relative is over 100 miles away; nearest friends over 200. They have not been in extensive contact with my daughter. TheContinue reading “The difference between fine and masking”

The Flight of the butterfly

So despite our best efforts to distract and divert, our daughter has sadly not forgotten about the blue wings. So, with no small sense of trepidation, I logged on to that great warehouse in the sky and searched the South American river. It was with great relief that an acceptable set was found: A setContinue reading “The Flight of the butterfly”

Rolling with imagination

My fae has an imagination that is, at some points, a strange and scary place. I have heard it said that children with autism lack this singular human quality, and I have to say that in our experience, that is total hogwash. Not only does she demonstrate imaginative play, she will insist that we playContinue reading “Rolling with imagination”