Motheroffae

The saga of pirate pie

Yes this is another post about attempting to feed my fae. It is a subject that occupies most of my waking hours, so deal with it! Yesterday, I was elated by the first signs that my child may actually have a food preference that she would be prepared to eat. She turned from the television,Continue reading “The saga of pirate pie”

Autistic burnout

Over the past few weeks our fae has started exhibiting some new and frankly bizarre (for her) behaviour: she has been refusing to see her out of school friends; to go to her childminder (who she loves); and, when her grandparents call, she tends to say ‘bye’ to them, shut the iPad, and walk away.Continue reading “Autistic burnout”

Cracking the 5 a day code

So, courtesy of an overdose of Cocomelon, I think I may have stumbled on the Rosetta Stone of getting my fae to eat somewhere near her 5-a-day! You will need: 7 different coloured fruits, ice lolly molds, sieve, a blender, freezer and time. We’re going to make rainbow ice lollies. If your child is anythingContinue reading “Cracking the 5 a day code”

Masking Problems

We recently discovered that our daughter has a remarkable ability to mask when she is uncomfortable in situations. Unfortunately this is incredibly common in children with autism, and it can be exhausting for them. My daughter finds noise distressing. She covers this at school (apparently) so well that I have been told that she hasContinue reading “Masking Problems”

A new take on a balanced diet

So our fae has … interesting eating habits. That is to say, if she eats, then she has interesting eating habits. She has habits similar to a snake, in the way that she exists. She will eat her own body weight one week and then for the next month live off air and water. It’sContinue reading “A new take on a balanced diet”

Standoffish or hyper-affectionate?

When our fae was first diagnosed I was warned by many people that she would not like cuddles or being touched at all. I was told this by well meaning people full of sympathy. If I was able to raise a single eyebrow at that I would have, as it was I just smiled sardonicallyContinue reading “Standoffish or hyper-affectionate?”

Do you know where your towel is?

I am a massive fan of Douglas Adams. You probably guessed that from the title of the post, but I assure you, it has relevance to the topic in discussion. Whenever we take our daughter out, I carry what I still refer to as “a nappy sack”, although it has rather evolved from the daysContinue reading “Do you know where your towel is?”

Have you seen our table?

We moved house (and county) last year. In the process we freed up some equity, which we resolve to use to “fae-proof” our new home. She doesn’t maliciously set out to damage things, she just.. “happens” to them. In our house, her name is now an adjective, used to explain when something has been inadvertentlyContinue reading “Have you seen our table?”

5 Going in 15

In the past week I have heard phrases from my 5 year old I thought I had at least another decade before we had to deal with. If I hear ‘it’s not fair’ one more time I can’t guarantee that I will respond in an adult fashion: There is a good chance I will breakContinue reading “5 Going in 15”

Have you tried therapy?

People seem to think that therapy is some sort of panacea that will cure all that ails you. It sounds so simple: find a counselor (how is glossed over); tell them your problems (implies you know the root cause of your issues rather than just being depressed/stressed/anxious); and they will wave a magic wand andContinue reading “Have you tried therapy?”