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Reluctantly Playing the Main Role in an RPG

Have you ever played one of those infuriating games where, for no apparent reason you have to unlock the green chest with the red key that you got from the one-eyed wizard to retrieve the amulet to make the cat talk so you can get the directions to the hidden forest to save the babyContinue reading “Reluctantly Playing the Main Role in an RPG”

Transport Drama (ongoing)

So my Fae is – as I guess a lot of such children are – entitled to transport, supplied by the council, to and from school. This is because she requires extra support, as she has a tendency to Houdini herself out of any harness or seatbelt; has no sense of danger; and can beContinue reading “Transport Drama (ongoing)”

Negotiations and getting what you need

There are times that, like it or not, your fae needs to do what you tell them. This can cause conflict: if they have PDA (pathological demand avoidance) tendencies, it can be impossible, or at least very difficult. I have some suggestions for how to get your way with your fae child, some of theseContinue reading “Negotiations and getting what you need”

The mystery of the missing Bubble

It’s funny how one small thing can screw up what was otherwise a damn fine day. I suppose at this point it would be wise to explain about Bubble. Bubble is a small, green triceratops with a monobrow and a loose thread round his neck. Don’t ask me why he’s called Bubble, I have noContinue reading “The mystery of the missing Bubble”

The cyclic pain of the summer holiday.

Last week I didn’t write a post. This is because, like many of you, I am in the depths of the summer holiday. 6 weeks of freedom from routine and the humdrum of school and nursery life. For a lot of families this means the excitement of holidays in far flung places (or at leastContinue reading “The cyclic pain of the summer holiday.”

The blood and agony of bedtime routine (and why it’s worth it)

Our daughter has a bedtime routine. She will go to bed happily and stay there all night. On a good day she won’t get up until about 7am. On a bad day she’s up at 4am, on average she gets up somewhere between 5 and 6. This was not something achieved without significant effort onContinue reading “The blood and agony of bedtime routine (and why it’s worth it)”

The Importance of Routine

I have recently been reminded of the importance of having a routine in the lives of fae children. In all children, in fact, but doubly for those of a neuro-divergent disposition. Routines and structure give children security and a sense of safety; without it they are more inclined to act out. Studies have shown thatContinue reading “The Importance of Routine”

More on Eating and Feeding

Despite what the book said and the indoctrination of at least 50% of every baby aisle I did not go down the pureed food and baby jar route. I used baby-led weaning, and this was done after conducting a lot of my own research. By research I don’t mean I sat and watched you tubeContinue reading “More on Eating and Feeding”

Can’t eat wont eat

Can’t eat, Won’t eat. Our fae has the most esoteric eating habits. She will go through phases where it doesn’t matter what I put in front of her, she can’t eat it fast enough. It puts me in my happy place to watch my stringbean of a child scarf nutritious food down as fast asContinue reading “Can’t eat wont eat”

The pregnancy and birth of my fae

Thinking back to the birth of my fae…. It could have been smoother but it could have been a lot worse. Believe it or not, signs of the forthcoming arrival of a fae baby may start even before the birth. My first thought that we may be expecting one was when I found myself inContinue reading “The pregnancy and birth of my fae”