Life with fae – Page 13 – Raising the Modern Fae

Interpreting reports – what your fae’s teacher really means

We got the first ever written school report for our daughter this week. It reminded me of (mainly because it was full of) all the diplomatic phrases that teachers use to disguise what they really mean. It also made my husband and I laugh as we went through and translated it. So to help youContinue reading “Interpreting reports – what your fae’s teacher really means”

Continuous progress

Sometimes, it’s not easy to see progress day-to-day. This weekend, our Fae’s grandparents came to visit:a relatively infrequent occurrence due to distance. As such, it really brought home just how much our daughter had actually improved since their last visit (a few months ago, before she began school). Back then, she was just beginning toContinue reading “Continuous progress”

I will explain through the medium of dance

For the past month or so the school that my daughter attends have been attempting to toilet train her. This is something we have tried – and failed – to do on a number of occasions in the past. The problem is that all guidance starts with “explain to your child”… so as our faeContinue reading “I will explain through the medium of dance”

Invisible Stress

(A guest post from the fae dad) Let me tell you about my morning. After I was showered and dressed, I collected our fae and she trotted obediently downstairs with me. She helped me set the table, make her breakfast, and empty the dishwasher. She ate all her breakfast without any trouble, came back upstairsContinue reading “Invisible Stress”

Best Laid Plans

Two weeks ago we thought we had planned a lovely Sunday activity complete with birds, water and puddle splashing… and it blew up in our face. Despite doing everything right, our fae hated everything. This Sunday, we decided to go to a garden centre. That was it, the whole plan! Go to a garden centre,Continue reading “Best Laid Plans”

Why Fight?

I have written a few posts on how to complete various forms, and why, in our humble opinion (my husband is my stalwart support in writing this blog, and my poor editor to make sure that there aren’t too many grammatical errors) it is important to chase information. This blog is why you should fightContinue reading “Why Fight?”

Sunday was not a good day

For reasons that I still do not quite understand, my daughter had a bad day. I have no idea what the trigger was, but from the moment she got up, everything was wrong. She couldn’t settle to watch her shows; when my parents called to talk to us – a regular weekend occurrence – sheContinue reading “Sunday was not a good day”

You’re doing fine.

Don’t forget: you’re doing fine It’s so easy to over-analyse every little thing you do, and focus on every tiny mistake you feel you make. At the end of a particularly hard day, you collapse on the couch – gin optional (only kidding, it’s not optional) – and go through every interaction, every word andContinue reading “You’re doing fine.”

Safe spaces and spoon theory

I’m not normally one for metaphors, but this one rang a discordant bell with me. Have you ever heard of spoon theory? Here’s a short summary for those who haven’t: Every morning when you wake up you have a number of spoons in the drawer that you can use. The number varies from person toContinue reading “Safe spaces and spoon theory”

I can’t help you when you’re being this logical

This fantastic statement was made to me by a therapist the one and only time I went to see one. Several of the agencies I have been referred to have suggested, cajoled and eventually coerced into speaking to a therapist. Apparently they felt it would be good for me, and consequently good for my fae.Continue reading “I can’t help you when you’re being this logical”