Life with fae – Page 9 – Raising the Modern Fae

Signs of tiredness

As with all children (I imagine), our fae won’t always recognise that she is tired. She will sometimes accept that she is tired – she is always tired; she won’t sodding sleep, so it’s always a good bet that she has a sleep debt – but you will always know. She has two moods whenContinue reading “Signs of tiredness”

Overcoming Adversity

My fae has shown great tenacity in the face of setbacks this year. Some are big, some were small, some just plain stupid and pretty much all of her own making. The weather: this summer, I think we can all agree, failed to summer! It has been, at best, pathetic. This has not stopped myContinue reading “Overcoming Adversity”

Don’t assume anything

Trying to figure out what the hell to do with my daughter over the summer holiday has had me tearing my hair out. There are things that I dismissed out of hand as being inappropriate because of the duration (7 hour football training), the noise (ten pin bowling), or her capability (she can’t swim). ThisContinue reading “Don’t assume anything”

Well that escalated quickly part 2

So it’s the end of term today time for an update I guess. So in response to my email to the governors and subsequent meeting lead to a full scale governors investigation. The result of which I got by letter a few weeks later. Of my 7 complaints of neglect and poor communication every oneContinue reading “Well that escalated quickly part 2”

Imaginative Play

There is a myth amongst neurotypicals: that fae children do not engage in imaginative play. How I wish this was true. My daughter weaponises it. She loves nothing better than to drag you into her world of make believe, only to slam you out of it with a bump. I say “bump” – really, IContinue reading “Imaginative Play”

There’s always something

So it seems I jinxed us with the last post. Seriously, I don’t know what I was thinking by stating that “everything’s going well” – obviously karma would strike me down with wrath. In this case, my poor little fae daughter fell during a PE lesson and fractured her arm. So, three weeks in aContinue reading “There’s always something”

The magic formula

For years… in fact, for over a decade, even before my fae was born, my husband and I have had a long running joke that “life will have to settle down soon right?”. It started with us moving in together, and then both finding gainful employment on the same side of the Atlantic. We thenContinue reading “The magic formula”

I don’t believe in reincarnation but…

I don’t believe in reincarnation. Or, at least, I didn’t, but my fae is making me question things. I firmly believe she has had other lives. In one, I think she must have been a collie. She will round up people and herd them together, whether they want to be herded or not. On occasionsContinue reading “I don’t believe in reincarnation but…”

The balance between excited and exhausted

Our fae has more energy than your average 6 year old. I know that all parents say that. But when the teachers at the special school she attends; the disabilities social workers; and parents of other neuro-spicy children all look at her and, on first meeting, say in a slightly high pitched and worried toneContinue reading “The balance between excited and exhausted”

Meltdown Mayhem

Our fae is normally quite well regulated and doesn’t need much input in terms of her emotional regulation. The past few weeks, however, have had me questioning everything I have ever done with her with regards to grounding exercises, distractions, and any other tool I have to help her through, and out, of meltdowns. WeContinue reading “Meltdown Mayhem”