Socks in our house are a bit of an odd item of apparel. I’m the only one who can stand to wear them indoors—and I have to wear them. My husband, I think, believes they’re evil and does his best to destroy them with alarming alacrity. And our daughter… well, she has her own rituals.Continue reading “The rituals of socks”
Tag Archives: Life with fae
Three calendars and a cake day
For most of the time, I forget that our normal is actually insane. That most people don’t need three calendars for one small child and a meal rota published on the dining room wall, colour-coded so she can choose from it. Most children have two options for dinner: take it or leave it. So lastContinue reading “Three calendars and a cake day”
The missing paper
At the gym my fae child attends for sports club, they keep a care plan on her (a bit like an abbreviated EHCP). It follows her into and out of every lesson. On Wednesdays, she has back-to-back classes in different areas, so to save time and stress, I collect her from one class and takeContinue reading “The missing paper”
Air, Spite, and Peanut Butter: My Child’s Summer Diet
As I’ve mentioned before (regularly throughout this blog), my daughter needs a routine to thrive. We are now in the doldrums of the summer holidays. We’ve done all the obvious things (beach, parks, museums—though to be honest, most of that was her grandparents while I cowered in a darkened room trying to catch up onContinue reading “Air, Spite, and Peanut Butter: My Child’s Summer Diet”
Social boundaries? …. Never heard of them
Social Boundaries? Never Heard of Her. AKA: My Daughter Thinks Every Family Is Her Family We’re in the gym club room. You know the type—soft play structure off to one side, clusters of parents slouched around coffee cups, the air tinged with a mix of sweat, fabric softener, and crushed oat bar. Most children, byContinue reading “Social boundaries? …. Never heard of them”
Parenting the rule enforcer
Our daughter has an interesting relationship with rules. They fall into two categories: if the rule is explained and it makes sense to her, she will not only obey it religiously, she will enforce it with others. And by others, I mean anyone within the general vicinity. It doesn’t matter who you are—teacher, parent, completeContinue reading “Parenting the rule enforcer”
Direct payment part 2
So, a while ago, we got approved for 8 hours a week (school holidays only) direct payment for someone to look after our child. This means that I can get the washing and food prep for the week done without losing my mind. It also gives her a chance to interact with adults that areContinue reading “Direct payment part 2”
Why is it so hard to get help
Our fae is – undeniably – autistic. My husband and I are not diagnosed, but we’re something spicy. We thought about getting diagnosed as an act of solidarity, and were told the waiting list in our area for adults to be seen is 10 years. 10. Years. That’s insane. I was thinking about going backContinue reading “Why is it so hard to get help”
Those who should know better
There are a set of individuals I feel should really know better than to expect standard behaviours from fae children. I take that back: there are TWO professions in which I expect this, namely education, where you need to understand at least in broad strokes the needs and differences to impart information; and those inContinue reading “Those who should know better”
Managing residential
This week, my daughter went on her first “sort of” residential trip with the school. How was it “sort of” residential, I hear you ask (all 2 people who are maybe reading this outside my immediate family) Well, it goes like this. A couple of months ago a very bubbly, slightly demented child came homeContinue reading “Managing residential”
Raising the Modern Fae 