For the last month our daughter hasn’t slept through more than one night a week. Most nights, if I’m lucky, I get a three hour block before I hear the tiny voice at the bedroom door informing me she “had a nightmare.” The nightmares, according to her, involve snakes, witches, monsters, spiders and, somewhat lessContinue reading “Anyone got a paddle?”
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Pouring from the non-existent empty bucket
Ever heard the phrase you can’t pour from an empty bucket? I have. Mostly from therapists. I hate it, it’s such a stupid thing to say. We’re not containers with a finite amount of ‘stuff’ also what is it that we’re pouring? Love? Energy? Sarcasm? That last one I promise I have an endless wellContinue reading “Pouring from the non-existent empty bucket”
Safeguarding is not optional 2
So it’s been a few days since I quite impressively lost the plot at the gym over the complete failure to safeguard the kids club. To the credit of the Activities Manager, he emailed me on the Sunday assuring me he would follow up. I shot an email back asking two main questions: how didContinue reading “Safeguarding is not optional 2”
Safeguarding is not optional
So I have made myself rather unpopular at my local gym which is unfortunate as we rather like the place. The thing is, I don’t – and won’t – mess about when it comes to the safety of my child, and I’m frankly surprised at the number of parents who either don’t realise, or haveContinue reading “Safeguarding is not optional”
There is no such thing
This is going to upset a lot of people who think this is gatekeeping, but it needs to be said. I don’t think there is such a thing as being “a little bit autistic”. Or a little bit ADHD. Or a little bit OCD. Or a little bit any other form of neurodivergence. You eitherContinue reading “There is no such thing”
SEND tax
I have finally found—after, I admit, a lot of searching (to the point that Meta’s algorithm eventually cottoned on to what I was looking for)—a charity to help us train our puppy into a reputable service dog. They’re recognised by the government and the NHS, so yay. They also charge north of £3,000 per annumContinue reading “SEND tax”
Parenting the rule enforcer
Our daughter has an interesting relationship with rules. They fall into two categories: if the rule is explained and it makes sense to her, she will not only obey it religiously, she will enforce it with others. And by others, I mean anyone within the general vicinity. It doesn’t matter who you are—teacher, parent, completeContinue reading “Parenting the rule enforcer”
Why is it so hard to get help
Our fae is – undeniably – autistic. My husband and I are not diagnosed, but we’re something spicy. We thought about getting diagnosed as an act of solidarity, and were told the waiting list in our area for adults to be seen is 10 years. 10. Years. That’s insane. I was thinking about going backContinue reading “Why is it so hard to get help”
Those who should know better
There are a set of individuals I feel should really know better than to expect standard behaviours from fae children. I take that back: there are TWO professions in which I expect this, namely education, where you need to understand at least in broad strokes the needs and differences to impart information; and those inContinue reading “Those who should know better”
Managing residential
This week, my daughter went on her first “sort of” residential trip with the school. How was it “sort of” residential, I hear you ask (all 2 people who are maybe reading this outside my immediate family) Well, it goes like this. A couple of months ago a very bubbly, slightly demented child came homeContinue reading “Managing residential”
Raising the Modern Fae 